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our “Wise Self” sits your “Little Self” down for a no-nonsense chat. 

Here’s how it goes:  “Alright, listen. Life’s messy, unpredictable, and sometimes downright annoying. But here’s the deal: it’s going to be okay. You’re going to be okay. Sure, things might go sideways once in a while—maybe way sideways.  In those moments, yeah it’s going to stink for a bit. But give it some time, and like clockwork, things find a way of sorting themselves out.”

That’s why we talk to ourselves with some sense—reminding the panicky part of us to chill. We self-soothe to co-regulate our central nervous system. When we step back and look at the bigger picture, life suddenly feels less like a battlefield and more like… well, an interesting puzzle. Not perfect, but definitely manageable.

Here’s the truth: life is just a bunch of moments—some great, some not. The trick? Don’t cling to the bad ones. Don’t rush past the good ones. Just let them come and go. Optimize where you can, roll with the rest, and don’t forget to enjoy the ride. Oh, and laugh at yourself. A lot.